This struck a chord in me. Not sure why. I have never been accused of not deserving my girls. In fact I have always been praised for my relaxed and calm mothering technique as well as the result it provides and YET, I immediately became defensive. Why? I'm not sure. Maybe because my husband and I are now separated. Maybe because I live with my mom and sister and get a ton of state aid and am not able to provide to my girls directly. I don't know . . . am I deserving? I imagine someone who can't have a baby but is happily married and living in their own house with a stable income would say no. Yeah, I guess that's why.
Maybe because I became a mother easily. (It only took a year and a miscarriage to give birth to my first daughter and I quickly became pregnant with my second only four months later)
My question is, what automatically rates a person deserving or undeserving of children? God allows events to happen in a person's life to allow them perspective, a lesson, comfort and or something else to honor Him. If a life is gifted upon a person with little to no money, perhaps it is God's attempt to bring that person closer to Him in one way or another. I think every human being has the right to be a parent (in the conventional way = Man + Woman + Marriage = Baby) but even if a woman becomes pregnant by a one night stand, rape, incest, or what have you, that baby is a miracle and just because the parent may not be what the world views as 'deserving' the purpose of that child may not be as an 'award' from God but a lesson, an eye opener, a different path.
I'm sorry for the vent. I debated on writing this post. I don't want to offend anyone, especially friends who are close to me but for some reason I felt compelled. I don't think it is anyone's job to judge who is deserving of a child regardless of their own circumstances, views etc. It is God's job to judge and decide. Let's leave this to Him.