Saturday, March 12, 2011

A QUESTION FOR MY READERS

How do you feel about the people you follow?

Do you care when they don't post for long periods of time?

How do you feel about bloggers who just disappear?

And how do you feel about bloggers who decide to stop what they are doing to start over fresh somewhere else? Somewhere new.

Would you follow?

Just curious

XO Kristen

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21 comments :

  1. I usually either bond with a blog or not. I like humor alot and people who can poke fun at themselves. I always follow people who follow me, since those are my biggest supporters and I want to support them as well. I don't like when people don't post for a long time but I follow so many bloggers that I really don't notice who's not posting unless they are my friends and closest bloggers than I have met and became friends with. I also don't really like when people use their blog like it's twitter and post every random thought separately... LOL

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  2. Some blogs I follow more closely than others. I definitely notice when some haven't posted for a while & wonder about them. I go through my blog list a couple of times a year. If someone hasn't posted in 4-6 months I don't unfollow them, but I take them off the blog roll on my page.

    As for people starting fresh somewhere else, I'm one of those people that chose to do that. I was left with little choice thanks to the maliciousness of others. I tried to let people know privately since I didn't want the source of the problem to know where I had disappeared to if they came looking. I know I missed people & I know not everyone decided to follow on my new blog. Personally, if its someone that I enjoy following & they continue to follow me, I would follow them if they wanted/needed a fresh start.

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  3. Mh... I just emailed Julia to ask for an invitation to her blog. Didn't realize she might not want to continue. I find it said - cause eventhough I don't know most bloggers I follow personally, I feel a connection to most of them.
    Although I have been too busy/uninspired/lazy to post myself recently I keep on following people and miss them when they disappear. And I wonder and worry a bit...
    So - I hope she is alright and comes back eventually.

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  4. I like the people I follow, otherwise I wouldn't be following them. If they don't post for a long time I wonder how they are doing. When a blogger just disappears I feel sad because something may be going on in their life or a troll chased them away.

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  5. I feel a connection to a lot of bloggers too. Some of them I am friends with on Facebook so I will post on their walls. It does sadden me when a close friend decides to stop blogging with no invite or notice. Especially if I comment on their blog a lot.

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  6. How do you feel about the people you follow?
    I loooooooooove the people that I follow. I love reading about their successes and I get sad when they have failures. I also feel really guilty when I don't have time to hop online and read their posts and/or comment on their posts on a daily basis. I try to do it every day because I know how important this little support system is.

    Do you care when they don't post for long periods of time?
    I know that life happens so I don't hold it against people who don't post every day, but I definitely start to worry if a week or two goes by and there are no posts from people that I regularly read. Makes me nervous for them and I start to wonder if they've slipped and/or fallen off the wagon. :(

    How do you feel about bloggers who just disappear?
    I feel guilty when bloggers disappear. I feel like I should've been there for them more. One gal that I was following disappeared and I went to her blog three weeks later and asked her to come back...that, even if she fell off the wagon we'd work through it together. She never came back. :C

    And how do you feel about bloggers who decide to stop what they are doing to start over fresh somewhere else? Somewhere new.
    It's kind of annoying when they start somewhere new, but...it's not a big deal. I'll still follow them on the new place, but I'm not creating new accounts just to do so. I need consistency in my life.

    Would you follow?
    I'm currently following two people who have "moved," but I really like them and their writing styles...so...it's worth it.

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  7. I'm like alot of these other ladies, I have my "favorites." People that leave me amazing comments and I feel a real kinship to, actually end up e-mailing back and forth with, etc. and people who I love reading when I see their name in my reading list but I don't actually go searching for on my own. I do notice when people don't post for a long amount of time, because sometimes I'll go through and click on their blog name and see when the last post was to be sure I'm all caught up on my reading. I wish people wouldn't just disappear, but what can we do, yanno? Except give them support and let them know we'll be there when they get back. I would refollow someone who "moved" if they were a blogger I really cared about. If it was just someone who was following me but didn't ever leave comments, maybe not.

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  8. I love the people I follow and when I fall out of love I STOP following. I love to read abou the victories and I identify with their failures and I want to support them. If I follow you and you move....I will follow you anywhere...I may have found a blog here out of convenience, but I am not anti other site blogging. I have a few people that I worry about when I don't hear from them after awhile, but I myself have fallen away before and I was greatful to have a place to come home too. It's a journey and some people get too tired to go on...I get that and I am HERE for their second wind. I usually only stop following a blog if over time it develops a SUPERIOR attitude or it starts feeling like the blogger thinks they have all the answers.

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  9. I love the people I follow.. and I am a picky follower.. I find motivation from them.. if they go more than a month wih out posting I remove them from my list.. I do not post comments often I am more of a lurker.. but when things strike me then I comment.. You are one of my favorite bloggers because even with all your stress and aggravation that goes on with in your world.. you find joy .. you find joy in your girls.. in being able to play with them.. and what I enjoy the most .. even though you might lose faith in yourself for a little bit.. YOU ALWAYS COME BACK and that my friend helps keep me motivated.. I say to myself well if this young lady can continue the good fight.. then me.. I can do the same.. her life is far more stressful than mine.. yet she keeps coming back and keeps trying.. and sooner or later.. she will get to where she wants to be.. and I like that.. I try to find those type of attitudes in everyone I read... each person I follow gives me something.. Allen for example.. is sort of like my kick in the butt.. the quit your bitchin person and keep going .. DO NOT GIVE UP!.. and I like that... You do not give up.. and that helps me not give up... and there are others.. that offer similiar things..

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  10. I like what Darla said. I have a few people that I really like, kind of the inner circle, then a group I feel like I kind of know but not enough to feel deeply affected by what they do. There are only a couple of people I follow that I don't feel connected to but I keep following them for now, I guess to see if things change.

    But, if someone drops off or goes underground, I won't take it personally. It may make me sad but I would respect that they have their reasons and that is kind of the down side to cyber friends.

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  11. How do you feel about the people you follow? some I follow because they inspire me, others are almost like blog-porn... I know they have bad energy but I can almost not stop myself from reading ;P

    Do you care when they don't post for long periods of time? I always think they have fallen off the WL wagon, make me sad

    How do you feel about bloggers who just disappear? sad

    And how do you feel about bloggers who decide to stop what they are doing to start over fresh somewhere else? Somewhere new. ...hummm... are they starting fresh or running? again makes me sad

    Would you follow? not usually ... a blogger I totally loved when I first started blogging disappeared and just recently reappeared and that person is in EXACTLY in the same place and they were and they gone for MONTHS!! but you aren't ready until you are ready ... again makes me sad and grateful all at the same time

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  12. How do you feel about the people you follow?
    I have 2 lists of people I follow: one one list, I love to read the blogs and feel excited for their journeys. On the other list, I don't feel a strong connection with the blogger but check in occasionally (usually when I'm extra bored at the office or something).

    Do you care when they don't post for long periods of time?
    Yes, it makes me sad. I know that in the past when I've blogged and not checked in, it was because I wasn't doing anything I'd be happy to check in about. I always assume that's what is going on for others, too.

    How do you feel about bloggers who just disappear?
    Sad for them. Often, the ones who just disappear are the ones who have been struggling so much.

    And how do you feel about bloggers who decide to stop what they are doing to start over fresh somewhere else? Somewhere new.
    I'm not sure what you mean, exactly. Like? Start over on a new plan? I love that idea, provided the plan makes sense! Start over on a new blog? That's good, too!

    Would you follow?
    New plan? No. I've got one that works great for me (-35lbs in 10 weeks). New blog: Sure, why not?

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  13. I like the people whose blogs I follow. And I care about them, how they are doing, how their lives are going. It isn't "just about weight loss" for me. It is about the person.

    When someone disappears, I feel concern. I try to leave them a message, either on their blog, on Facebook, if we are "friended", by e-mail if they post an address. I know that life happens and sometimes one just doesn't have time to blog, but I do wonder what happened when someone just up and floats off into the ether.

    I am tenacious by nature and I don't like to give up on people. It takes a lot of thought and a long time with no update before I will throw in the towel and remove blogs from my blogroll. I did that, last night. And I fretted and worried about each person whose blog I was removing. And I felt guilty about doing it. Still do. But my blogroll was a monster and it needed to be trimmed. If I see those blogs pop up on other rolls, I will add them back and keep reading.

    I have followed a few bloggers to new pastures. If they provide a link/invite I am there. It isn't that much trouble to remove the old blog and add the new one and I don't mind doing it. Sometimes a person just needs to do what a person needs to do. If that means a move, if they want me to come along, I will.

    What's up, Kristin?

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  14. I have come to the conclusion after having these same questions run through my mind... we are all people and we all have different lives...sometimes we have time, sometimes we don't and sometimes our lives take different turns in the road expected or unexpected. I follow more blogs than I have followers and a lot of times people I leave comments for NEVER leave me comments. My blog is for me and if people like to visit then that is wonderful but I have no expectations....I love getting comments and having people follow but if they choose not to, it's ok. I did a blog on this same subject a few posts back...have anice weekend!

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  15. More than one question, heh:

    How do you feel about the people you follow?
    I feel a spectrum. Most I follow cause they are either 1. interesting or 2. inspiring or 3. stylish or 4. helpful or 5. hilarious or 6. unbelievable/puzzling or 7. a cautionary tale. So the emotions can run from like to love to gratitude to camaraderie to disgust or sympathy.

    Do you care when they don't post for long periods of time?
    Yes, for many. On some blogs that have been silent, you'll see me (if the comments are made visible) asking how they are REPEATEDLY. I found out last week that one blogger I'd left several comments encouraging them to update had deleted their blog. Made me very sad. Two others I'm keeping my eye on. They were doing great and, bam, not updating. Others, I worry cause I figure they're doing badly....

    How do you feel about bloggers who just disappear?
    Mostly AWFUL. I feel abandoned if we had some sort of camaraderie.

    And how do you feel about bloggers who decide to stop what they are doing to start over fresh somewhere else? Somewhere new.

    Not a problem as long as they link. I adjust my links on blogrolls (or personal file) and keep reading. I don't follow blogs on Google so much (that can get cumbersome), but I have my own system.

    Would you follow? Oh, yes! If I like or love them or find them uplifting or helpful (like great recipes or tips), yes. I also would follow the cautionary tales, cause I think it's important to see the self-deluded or wayward ones to remind us how easy it is to BE self-deluded and wayward and unfocused and self-excusing. Fortunately, I find I only follow a couple of those. It's too depressing. I'd rather follow folks who have gumption and just keep at it.

    If it starts to be just personal life stuff, though, I tend to tune out. Right now, the bloggers I follow are weight loss related or writing related. Anything out of that scope and I tend to drift away....

    HTH.

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  16. How do you feel about the people you follow?
    I feel a connection, and either they are people who are going through what I'm going through now, or they have been where I am and they had great success in their weight-loss and it motivates me.


    Do you care when they don't post for long periods of time?
    Once every week or two is one thing, but I start wondering about the person when a month passes and there has been no word from them.


    How do you feel about bloggers who just disappear?
    Things happen, and most people aren't single and childless so I know that kids and work and spouses and all that can take up a lot of your time, but if someone just completely drops off the face off blog-world, I would assume they probably aren't doing so well in their diet and are just taking a break from it...


    And how do you feel about bloggers who decide to stop what they are doing to start over fresh somewhere else? Somewhere new.
    Some people get bored and need a change, or just need a change. Some people evolve and need something else and that's okay.


    Would you follow?
    I would still follow if the blogger was still blogging about weight-loss. Maybe other things too in some circumstances, but because weight loss blogs are what motivates me to keep going strong, then that's typically who I follow. And, as long as I could follow them from blogspot. :)

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  17. I generally feel a little upset when a blog becomes private and I haven't received an invite or have no way of being able to tell them I want in. Especially if you have been following for a while. But if I haven't been commenting, they generally can't tell that you have still been there, so how can they tell me or email me.
    I tend to gt emotionally involved with the blog even though I haven't spoken or meet the person irl. I get a nice surprise if/when they upload a video and I finally get to hear their voice, it makes them feel really real, although I haven't done that myself.
    So to answer your question, I feel like I have lost a friend if they disappear off my blog radar.

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  18. I just started following a blog and was in love with it and suddenly, it's private. Don't understand that, when it happens without a warning and a chance to contact the blogger and ask to be included.

    When people just disappear, I have to admit, I worry. Because not everyone stops blogging because their weightloss isn't going well - sometimes it's actual death or something awful.

    On the other hand, I don't blog myself for or because of my followers. It's a real dilemma.

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  19. I think we all fall in and out of love with blogging sometimes. I respect when people decide to go another direction, even when that means I will miss them. I get such joy from the people in our little hamlet of Blog. But, I don't feel betrayal if they need a holiday. They usually come back. Like family or close friends, you miss 'em and usually, they miss you too.

    Cheers,
    Missa
    LosingEthel

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  20. How do you feel about the people you follow? For the most part I feel pretty connected with for one reason or another. As of late though, there has been a lot of negativity going on on some of the blogs I follow (not their usual MO) so I am rethinking this one.

    Do you care when they don't post for long periods of time? I do prefer some consistency. Even if it was just once a week

    How do you feel about bloggers who just disappear? I have had more then one person that I followed actually pass away so sometimes I think they just gave up on blogging or WL but the other can be true too.

    And how do you feel about bloggers who decide to stop what they are doing to start over fresh somewhere else? Somewhere new. It is their perogative. As long as they alert their current readers and try not to ditch them

    Would you follow? If I liked them before, I would follow them again. We are entitled to recreate ourselves :)

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  21. I love the people I follow. I feel genuinely connected to them as we struggle together along this journey.

    I'm always sad and concerned when someone just disappears from the blogging world.

    Yes I would follow them if they decided to start over somewhere new!

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