So, now that visitation has reverted from being court mandated to on my terms he thinks he is entitled. In reality if he and I were not on good terms he would be required to seek a new court mandate because I am not legally required to let him see them. (The reasons behind that are extensive and sad and emotionally disturbing)
In addition to that he still sees me as his wife. To clear up any confusion. I separated from him in 2009. We had an on again off again effort in trying to save our marriage. I initiated divorce proceedings in early 2011 and it finalized in November 2011. So, I am not in anyway legally married or bound to this man except by our children and the love that I do have for him. He is the father of my babies and I have been 'with' him for over 12 years (since I was 15) But I am so tired of still being expected to be his secretary, his admin, his errand girl, his decision maker and his dirty business solver. UGH! I'm not his wife. I'm not his secretary. I'm not his waitress or his doctor or his accountant or his Girl Friday! Since we were married he had me do asinine tasks that he was perfectly capable of doing himself and now even when we are divorced he expects things of me. Phone calls that he is perfectly capable of making. Investigating brands, products and prices of things I have no clue about but he's too lazy to do it. Looking over and choosing his health care plan at work for him. WTF?!
I believe I am done venting for the moment. I am sure another time will arise though. Thanksgiving in T-2 days!
HAPPY EARLY TURKEY DAY!