I don't know when it became widely acceptable not to take responsibility for your own actions in life instead of blaming your failures or mistakes or errors on other people.
I don't know when it became widely acceptable for people to coddle and reward lazy or hateful or inappropriate or just plain bad behavior instead of allowing the person who is demonstrating such behavior to suffer the consequences, thus learning a lesson and perhaps not repeating the behavior.
I don't know when mediocrity and being average became something to celebrate and esteem while true superiority, skill, genius and brilliance was suppressed so as not to make others feel bad about themselves.
I was reading another blog entry this morning at Losing 147 about responsibility to ourselves and for ourselves. Go ahead and read it if you like. If you don't it is basically about being responsible for your own health without relying on government or parents or health gurus or exercise nuts to do it for you because you never really know when it is all hype or there is a hidden agenda.
My grandma recently went to a consignment store and while she was doing business with the store owner, the store owner and another lady were chit chatting about exercise. The store owner was talking about a six minute exercise and the other lady was talking about wanting to get back into running but that she had no time. (In essence she was blaming her work, her family and her lack of time on not running) My grandma brought up Zumba and the store owner was very interested in it. She asked my grandma all sorts of questions. She was informing herself and would eventually make her own decision about whether she would try it or not. The lady who kept making excuses about not running, though, also made excuses about why she would not try Zumba. She isn't coordinated. She doesn't like group classes. My grandma explained to her that she could buy the DVDs and do it at home alone. Instead of just listening and letting it go in one ear and out the other the woman insisted on giving every excuse in the book. I'm not coordinated. I don't have time for a class. I don't know where a class is. I don't have money to buy the DVDs. I have all these extra curricular activities to do with my children. It might be stressful on my bad back. ((grumble grumble)) And so on and so forth. The difference between the store owner and the excuses lady is that the store owner took my grandma's suggestion and did what she needed to with it. The other lady, even though she expressed her WANT for fitness, didn't really want to work for it. She wanted to complain about why she couldn't instead of thinking positively about how she could.
So, I am taking responsibility for myself. My health, my life, my well being, my happiness. I will work and struggle and fight for this life without EXPECTING others to do it for me. I will not expect my grandparents, my mom, my children or my ex husband to make me happy. I will not expect diet sensations, exercise gurus or anyone but my own common sense and self control to make me healthy and I will DO EVERYTHING IN MY POWER to make my life and my daughters' lives the happiest ones possible.
What about you? Will you take responsibility for yourself? Your happiness and your health? Or will you give excuses and hope that others will find your happiness and health and hand it to you on a silver platter?