No More Excuses, Let's Tell the Truth
What I do know is that I read A LOT of blogs about weight loss, diet, exercise etc. I don't post ALL of them on my left had side bar because there are just too many not to mention many of them are Wordpress writers who don't have the 'follow button' and therefore they are saved in my browsers favorites. Nonetheless, there is an overwhelming majority of excuses and justifications going on out there right now about 'why I'm not exercising', 'why I just had to eat that piece of cake', 'why I won't lose what I want by the time I want,' and the list goes on and on into infinity.
If you blog for yourself, and you blog to journal your experience, why lie? Why justify? Why makes excuses? Why not just say it how it is? No one is forcing information out of you, so why beat around the bush and try to hide? If you didn't exercise, be honest.
Instead of talking about how your laundry was all over your treadmill or there was ice on the roads that take you to your gym or your kettlebell fell in the kettle, why not just say, I DIDN'T WANT TO EXERCISE TODAY? Because in reality, you don't need a treadmill, a gym or kettlebells or DVDs or anything to exercise. There are plenty of things you can do using your body and the floor alone. So whatever stopped you from exercising (barring severe illness and injury) just gave you a convenient excuse to justify not exercising.
Instead of talking about how it was your birthday or his birthday or someone else's birthday or that celebration or this other one or whatever occasion it happens to be and saying, 'I felt guilty for not eating the cake when they did it JUST FOR ME', or 'It was just tonight, tomorrow I will do better,' just say, 'I ATE A DAMN PIECE OF CAKE BECAUSE I WANTED TO.'
And instead of justifying a weight gain by saying, 'it's that time of month,' or making excuses as to how you just don't know how you gained 2-3-4lbs in one week, just admit it! I ATE A BUTTLOAD OF CRAP, or I ATE A BUTTLOAD OF SODIUM or I JUST DIDN'T GIVE A SHIT THIS WEEK.
The blatant honesty is a lot more respectable and lot more manageable than justification and lying not only to your readers but to yourself. It is most important NOT TO LIE TO YOURSELF.
Success is Relative
I read in a post on a blog I read today how she wasn't sure if she would ever succeed and I am not 'picking on her', as this isn't at all about her. It is about the mentality of many in the weight loss blogging community that if I do not reach X weight by X time than I will be titled a failure.
A woman who loses 20lbs but has 150lbs to lose is only chipping away at the iceberg. Says who? I say she is a success because she isn't still binging.
A woman who has 20lbs to lose and loses them is success. REGARDLESS OF THE TIME IT TOOK HER TO DO IT.
Some might agree, some might not.
A woman who has 150lbs to lose and loses them is a success. REGARDLESS OF THE TIME IT TOOK HER TO DO IT.
Some might agree, some might not.
A person who has always spent above his means and has finally cut back to spending $10 under his means is successful. Some might agree, some might not.
A person who has always spent far under his means but lacks in so many necessary things to live is not successful. Some might agree, some might not.
A person who has always spent far under his means and lacks in so many necessary things to live but gives all that extra to others for their benefit because that is what fulfills him is successful. Some might agree, some might not.
IT IS ALL RELATIVE TO OUR OWN LIVES AND OUR OWN CIRCUMSTANCE
Success is not a one definition fits all kind of word. You decide YOUR DEFINITION OF SUCCESS and YOU DECIDE when you have achieved it.
So when you make unrealistic goals for yourself or make goals thinking that those are the goals you SHOULD make but aren't necessarily the goals you WANT to make then you are setting yourself up for failure. YOU MUST DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT, DECIDE HOW YOU'RE GOING TO GET IT AND GO GET IT IN MEASURED AND ATTAINABLE SMALL STEPS.
.... AND MOVING ON
This morning I saw this picture on my Facebook wall.
When I first saw it I thought, hmm that is kinda cool and quite symbolic of my current journey. LOVE IT.
But then I saw THIS STORY (on a different page because it was on Facebook but it basically says the same thing) and I realized that ironically there is an opposing meaning to this picture as well. ONE I DO NOT LOVE.
It gives a whole new meaning to shedding and transforming. This country has shed its skin and is transforming into something I am no longer proud of.
Which hurts me deeply, not only for myself and my adult family but very much so for my children. The world they grow up in will not be the same one we grew up in and I truly fear for their future.
ON A LIGHTER NOTE
Dinner will be 1 egg, 3 egg whites, 1 flour tortilla, jalapenos, onions, chipotle chiles adobados, avocado and 1/4 cup light black beans. MMM MMM MMM ...
And now, I have spent all my writing energy. Back to lurking, reading, perusing and resting.