Tuesday, February 26, 2013

I Found A Blog Today

I found a blog today, via another blog I follow and I was semi-horrified at it's content. The woman is basically a fat 'self' accepting, non disciplinarian to her child(ren?) who thinks 'parenting isn't hard' and that there are '21 things to STOP saying unless you hate fat people'. She also posts nude photos of herself while pregnant and YET is adamantly against 'sexualizing' her children. (Her example was being horrified by baby bibs that said 'jock', 'lil dude' and 'handsome' across the front.) I really don't know what to say about this woman's blog except it is very hard to wrap my mind around. And it just gets more confusing, frustrating and shocking as I read on.

It has never been my practice to 'call people out by name' here on my blog although the people I namelessly do call out usually know that it is them I am talking about.

However, this woman is what I BELIEVE is everything that is wrong in this country.

She says,

I'M FAT. TREAT ME EQUALLY BECAUSE I'M FAT. BUT DON'T EVER SAY X,Y OR Z TO ME BECAUSE THAT MEANS YOU HATE ME. Essentially treat me equally well because I'm fat but don't discriminate or criticize equally as well.

SAY WHAT?

SHE SAYS I HAD A KID AND I WILL SUFFOCATE HIM WITH LOVE AND HUGS AND KISSES BUT I WILL NOT DISCIPLINE HIM WHEN IT IS NECESSARY BECAUSE THAT IS MEAN.
She then gives an example of a kid knocking a drink off a table at McDonalds and likens a parent's disciplinary response equal to if a man on a date treated his date like a child. It IS NOT the same people. Children need to be taught. They aren't born with life's tools and discipline and consequences for poor or naughty behavior is necessary. NOT MEAN.

SHE IS A FIRM BELIEVER THAT 'DIETS DON'T WORK TO LOSE WEIGHT'. Which essentially means she thinks you don't have to change anything to get a different result - which rejects Einstein's definition of insanity.

WHEN HER CHILD WAS BORN SHE PONDERED NOT ANNOUNCING GENDER. LIKE EVER. AND LIKENED IT TO IGNORING SOMEONE'S RACE. AND THINKS RAISING A GENDER NEUTRAL CHILD IS SUPPORTABLE AND EVEN PROMOTABLE!

AN EXCERPT FROM HER HOLY GRAIL OF RAISING A 'BOYCHICK'

…While I know my child has a penis and testicles, and apparently lacks a vulva and vagina, I do not know that he is a boy. I may think that he is a boy, it is likely that he is a boy, but just like I do not — and cannot until he informs me — know his sexuality, I do not — and cannot until he informs me — know his gender. He might be a boy. He might be a girl. He might be some variation of genderqueer or otherwise fall midway in the gender spectrum, or outside of it altogether. (And for that matter, he might be a high femme boy or a very butch girl…)
But unless I give him room — psychic and psychological space, if you will — to discover and create these things on his own, I will never know how much of what he does is what he really wants, and how much is what he’s adopted because it’s what he thinks he’s supposed to do and like.
I’m not opposed to gender (which would be about as sensical as being opposed to gravity); I’m just opposed to its imposition on children too young to know better, but not too young to be warped by all the baggage it brings with it. I cannot say it better than this: “Turn down the volume on the gender coding. Respond to the child’s personality. Let your child be who he or she is.” Not gender-free. Just free to be whatever gender they are — whatever that means to them.


WHAT THE HOLY?!?!

I TAP OUT HERE ON THIS SUBJECT
I CAN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE

WEIGH IN POST STILL TO COME

4 comments :

  1. Totally agree with your points made ... especially on not disciplining children ... to discipline is to love them and give them the best chance at enjoying life

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  2. Oh wow I only read that one post. I guess I need to go look at the nudey pictures now. LOL

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  3. Now I am totally intrigued....

    While I get some of her points about letting your kids be who they are (I have a boy who LOVED pink for a long time and I didn't care one bit), there is a point where you have to draw the line. And that line for me is discipline and acceptance. I get those folks who are gender confused but I don't think it is them that is confused... I think it was the pressure of the parents. So, if you just make it clear that you love them no matter what and they should love themselves and treat their bodies like they love themselves, in the end it works out. Maybe not the way you thought or wanted, but it works out.

    People like this to me seem to be so afraid of screwing up that they just don't do anything which seems to screw kids up even MORE. I don't get it. I don't get why people quit parenting and we as a society have moved more and more to this world of just letting kids do whatever it is they want to do. It's nuts to me. And you're right, exactly what's wrong and why our society is falling apart.

    Maybe I don't want to know the blog. I would probably get on there and be banned for just saying I disagree. LOL

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  4. I have raised four children, I have 3 in their 30's and my youngest is 18. I would have loved my children for whoever or whatever they chose to be, but you still have to give them some direction. When my older children were young I spanked them. With my youngest child I never spanked. Ideas had changed and I was more mature and able to be more patient. I don't know that either worked better. It was just what I felt was appropriate at the time. Ignoring inappropriate behavior is not going to help the child in any way. I am as appalled by her methods as all of you.

    Betty

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